So do you ever talk to your close girlfriend, and she spills the tea on what’s going on with her, and it’s not good(positive) tea, therefore, it’s piping hot tea and you almost fall to the floor, bump your head, faint and come back in shock? Well, that’s me too. So basically the tea was: she and her boyfriend of 3+ years, whom she shares a home with decided that they needed a break. So I am like okay, that’s something they can recover from if it’s stemming from a need of self-development. But then she says, “no – Lex its more. He gave another girl head after I already caught them communicating.” [Pause]. Let the record reflect that I began to wrap a cord around my neck to see if this was a reality lol (not to actually harm myself, I am just extremely dramatic). She then tells me that his reasoning is because she has not been giving him enough attention, that she has been too focused on work and not on him. Mind you – we are 21-22 years old. This is the age that we must establish ourselves, and you are telling me that because it is grind season that gives you permission to step outside of your commitment to your girlfriend? And hearing this really hurt me, not because this is my friend but because of who my friend is. Who is she? She is one of the most determined people that I know. She traveled across the world to follow her dreams, with a less than ideal beginning. No job, no support and no idea how things were going to actually play out. But she stuck it out, stayed low, and now she is up UP. Dream job recently graduated and taking the necessary steps to make herself great. And because of this, she was violated. Why can’t men give women the benefit of the doubt that we give them? Because a woman would have acknowledged the man’s hustle and made an excuse for his lack of presence in the relationship, but guys run to the next easy solution? With that being said, let me ask, am I being too harsh or am I on point with my view of women never getting the benefit of the doubt? Let me know in the comments, maybe I am getting ahead of myself.
This blog is my contribution, but not limited, to all the young black women like myself. Women who are a sister, a friend, in school, chasing their dreams, and on the journey of finding true love..within their self. Is that you? Because this is my personal diary to you. I like pretty things so my posts will be forms of me venting by posting things that make me happy. It may get deep, but maybe not. Stay tuned.
“…flower child, beautiful child, I’m in your zone.” -Champagne Papi 🍾